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Friends - they enrich your life and improve your health

Updated: Jul 13, 2021

Friendship and the love that comes from our friends, that's what I would like to talk about today.

Friendships are so important in our lives and can have a major impact on our physical and mental wellbeing – for good or bad, depending on your friends.

Good friends play a significant role in our overall health and it’s a fact that older adults with friends and a good social life are likely to live longer than their peers who live a more solitary life.

We look to our friends to help us celebrate the good times, the milestones in our lives, to have fun with, to laugh with and to support us in the not so good times - we want to support and we want to be supported.

Life gets in the way of friends sometimes, we often can’t work out how to divide our time between partners, children, working long hours, chores, family commitments, blah blah blah and if we are not careful, our friendships can fall by the wayside.

Having friends and maintaining healthy friendships is not always easy. It takes time and a willingness on both sides, to both build and maintain them. They shouldn’t feel like a chore, they shouldn’t feel like hard work and they should enhance your life not make it more difficult.

When you put in the time to stay in touch and make yourself available as a friend, there are a whole range of wellbeing benefits, some of which you may not even be aware of and probably, neither will your friends.

A true friend will:

Increase your sense of belonging

Improve your self-confidence

Increase your sense of purpose

Boost your happiness

Improve your self-worth

Help you cope with life traumas such as illness, divorce, job loss or the death of a loved one

Reduce your stress

Identify the things you are good at, even when you can’t see it yourself

Improve your mood

Make you laugh

Be a positive influence if you are choosing unhealthy lifestyle habits

Keep you mentally strong

Know your quirks and still want to spend time with you

Help you to stay active

Know when you are not feeling yourself

Stop decline in your brain health (in older people)

Help you learn about yourself and your weaknesses (a true friend will talk to you about your weaknesses and help you to improve. They won’t judge you, they will want to help)

Often know you better than you know yourself

Tell you if you have spinach in your teeth

The list is actually endless…but you get the picture, friendship has huge, far-reaching benefits.

When looking at the list, some people might think why do I need friends, I’ve got a partner or family members to take care of that stuff. That’s fine too, but sometimes family have a hidden agenda, perhaps a judgement, even when they don’t mean to.

A friend helps with the things on the list because they want to, not because they think they have to or it’s expected of them.

Oh and it’s as important to be a good friend as it is to have good friends. Be reliable and dependable, be fun, be open and available, be kind and listen and show you can be trusted.

I’ve been asked a few times in sessions, how many friends should you have as an adult, what’s a good number? I think the answer is whatever feels right for you.

The quality of your friends is far more important. It’s great to have a wide network of friends and acquaintances but as long as you have a few friends, that you are close to and that are there for you during the good times and bad, then you have exactly what you need.

The last year and a bit has meant that perhaps we haven’t been able to see our friends so much.

If you haven’t been able to see your friends for a while, why not call or perhaps send them a card this week and let them know how much they mean to you.

Tell them how much you appreciate their friendship – it’s these people that have such a huge impact on your physical and mental wellbeing.

Being in touch will help you both feel more alive and more engaged.

And right now, that’s exactly what we all need.

Get in touch if this is something that you would like help with, we can have a chat about how I could help and support you – I would love to hear from you.


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